As difficult as it may be, there are ways to try to work on holding on to your sense of yourself during treatment.
Take time to Laugh
Cancer is such a serious disease and for good reason. As we all know, the treatment is arduous and the outcomes are not guaranteed. This does not mean that every aspect of your daily life must be serious. In fact, laughter is one of the most effective ways of holding onto your sense of yourself. People often say, “I used to be so happy and now I hardly ever laugh”. This does not have to be the case.
There are some great comedians that have done comedy routines about their cancer. They will say that it has been therapeutic for them to be able to laugh about their situation. A friend of mine gave me a stuffed pillow in the shape of a uterus before my hysterectomy. I had her bring it to the hospital and when my doctor came into my room, I pulled it out and told him that in fact, I had a spare uterus at home. We all had a good laugh about it.
Another way of bringing laughter into your life during this time is by watching funny movies and television shows. Gather family and friends together settle in for a night of good TV watching.
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Nurture your relationships
While you are in the process of being treated for cancer, life becomes very much centered around “you”- Your treatment, your side effects, your doctor appointments, etc. The list is long. The important people in your life often become supporting players in your story. It may seem like it is a strange time to try to focus on your relationships, but it can actually help give you a sense of purpose other than just being a patient.
You may not have a lot of extra energy for a whole lot more than your physical needs. Any amount that you can devote to connecting with the people in your life that matter to you can provide endless benefits toward your health and healing. If possible, try to create special memories. It is important to remember that the person you were before cancer is someone who focused their energy on other things, including relationships. The essence of what makes you the person that you are may be hard to access at times when you are in “patient” mode. Finding ways to stay connected to your self can help make the treatment process go a bit easier.