If you are depressed and it is holiday time you some of the following questions may be coming to mind:
- How do I get out of this?
- Why am I feeling this way? It’s the holidays, I am supposed to be feeling happy?
- What are people going to think of me when they see that I am not myself?
These thoughts are heavy and draining and self-defeating. I know what it is like to be severely depressed during the holidays. I remember either staring into space and wondering when these feelings would pass, would I ever come out of it and being in a place where I couldn’t be in the now and my thoughts were firing constantly and all I wanted to do was crawl up in a ball and hide.
I get it. The natural human instinct is to fight these feelings and quickly overcome them and make things right again. It doesn’t work like this. There is no magic bullet in fighting depression.
Instead of looking for a magical way out, why not accept where you in this place and time and start asking yourself more powerful questions like:
- What is causing me to feel this way?
- What is off in my life?
- How have I been living that is not fully aligned with who I am at my core?
- How can I get help?
- Who can I talk to?
- What am I not saying out loud to myself that is real?
- In what ways are my mental, physical, emotional, spiritual, environmental or social energy drained?
- Where are my needs not being met?
- Where am I overdoing it in life?
- Where might I want to let go of control?
- What relationships am in in that are healing? Which ones are draining?
- How am I not taking care of me?
These are just some questions you might want to start to look at to figure out what is really going on underneath the depression. Yes, it sucks to be in this place over the holidays, but why not look at this as a time for learning? There is a purpose in what you are experiencing and it is up to you to find the answers for yourself.
When we get depressed over the holidays my feeling is sometimes we make it worse because we are so caught up in what others will think or so stuck in self judgment that we circle further down that rabbit hole.
Why not take this time to just be who you are and where you are? Accept it and learn a lesson from it. What are you learning about yourself from this experience and how can you adjust and evolve from what you are experiencing. Take this time to recreate your life and start moving in the direction that suits you. There is never a finish line. Life is not linear. It is not about winning the race it is how we show up while we are running that race and how we can improve on the next race we run.
Be kind to yourself during the holidays season. Do what is right for you, not for others. When you start listening to your own voice, that is when change will happen.
Think about it. If it weren’t for your life experiences, you wouldn’t be who you are today. Own it and start creating the life that you fully want to live.
I don’t have a magic bullet for you. I don’t have your answers, you have your answers and will only gain them with the help and support of others, including professionals when you may need them.
Life is all about being committed and valuing yourself. Now, what is one step that you can take today to help move you from where you are right now to where you want to be?
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Reprinted with permission of the author.